Going Solo on Valentine’s Day: 5 Ways to Celebrate Yourself- it’s not as bad as you think
This Valentine’s day why not celebrate you. You are so incredible and have many accomplishments sure we make mistakes but we learn from them and not having a Valentine is not the end of the world. Just surround yourself with people that lift you up and your world will seem right again. Here are some tips from Sarah Stevenson about Going Solo on Valentine’s Day: 5 Ways to Celebrate Yourself.
You are worthy of celebrating yourself and this holiday with grace. You got this! Have a wonderful valentines day, it’s especially special to me since it’s my dads birthday. How lucky can you be to have a birthday and valentines on the same day?
Stacey- A FIT Caregiver
To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
Valentine’s Day can be so depressing for singles. There’s nothing more obnoxious than a whole day set aside to celebrate lovers when you’re riding it solo. For years, I rued February 14th for this very reason—until I realized all I needed was a change of perspective. I now celebrate the holiday my way whether I have a partner or not. After all, we’re smart folks with no interest in waiting around for Cupid to shoot his silly little arrow just so that we can be happy—so let’s get the party started without him!
Be proactive. Don’t spend the big day—or any other day, for that matter—wallowing in “rom coms” or romance novels. You’re just setting yourself up for unreasonable expectations if you do. Yes, I know you know that romantic comedies aren’t real, but your brain doesn’t always do that. The reason these movies succeed is that they cause you to identify with the characters. If you watch dreamy Ashton Kutcher chasing pretty Natalie Portman, you’re going to put yourself in one of their shoes and fantasize your way into an unreasonable expectation. Look out for yourself and be smart, don’t make the holiday harder than it has to be. You might want to stick to documentaries and Caddyshack marathons for the time being.
Perform random acts of kindness. This is a day to celebrate love, and that doesn’t require a boyfriend or girlfriend. Celebrate the fact that you have children, friends, and family. Make all the people you love cookies or cards. Have a nice little candlelight dinner with your kids, your siblings, or your parents. Show up at your friends’ work with balloons. Put a quarter in someone’s meter when they’re about to get a ticket. Buy the person behind you at Coffee Bean & Tea Leaf® their latte. Even smiling at a stranger counts, it will brighten there day. Research suggests that when you help make others’ lives better, you help increase happiness in your own life. Visit www.randomactsofkindness.org for hundreds of ideas on how to make this world a better place.
Throw a “Solo On V-day” party. Take the bull by the horns, my Lone Rangers! Get your friends together and celebrate the connection you have with all being single. I’m a yoga instructor, and every Valentine’s Day, I teach a totally ’80s yoga class. (Valentine’s Day and the ’80s share equal cheesiness qualities!) I ask each girl and guy to dress up in their best neon attire, and we get seriously down(dog) to this bitchin’ playlist:
“Sailing” by Christopher Cross
“I Know This Much Is True” by Spandau Ballet
“Eyes Without A Face” by Billy Idol
“Do You Really Want to Hurt Me” by Culture Club
“Save A Prayer” by Duran Duran
“Red Red Wine” by UB40
“Lady in Red” by Chris De Burgh
“If You Were Here” by The Thompson Twins
“Time After Time” by Cyndi Lauper
“Just The Way You Are” by Billy Joel
“Faithfully” by Journey
“Lady” by Kenny Rogers
“My Love” by Lionel Richie
“Truly” by Lionel Richie
It is so, like, incredibly awesome! Instead of sulking around all lonely, we’re celebrating our goofy selves. I even have couples who push their Valentine’s Day dinner plans so they can join in the fun.
Journal. Journaling is a great way to get what’s going on inside your head and heart outside where you can do something with it.
Gratitude Journal. Set some time aside to account for all your loved ones. In your journal, write down all the reasons you think they’re amazing. How do they make your life better or easier? How are they unique? What are their positive aspects? Research shows that focusing on positive aspects of life can increase a person’s level of happiness and sense of satisfaction.
Desire Journal. Imagine, if you will, that you could have the “perfect” mate. What inner qualities would they possess? Would he/she be intelligent, attractive, athletic, creative, kind, funny, and sweet? Years ago, I started to do this activity, and I found that it allowed me to attract amazing people in my life. I also found myself trying to build similar characteristics in myself. Birds of a feather flock together. So once you write down all that you want in a partner, develop those traits in yourself.
Treat yourself like a queen/king. Sometimes it’s perfectly OK to spoil yourself. In fact, sometimes it’s downright necessary. The truth is, you’re worth it! Go ahead and buy that fabulous pair of shoes. Eat the chocolate cake that you usually run screaming from on any other given day. Run a hot bubble bath, pour yourself a glass of wine, and soak up some swanky tunes for an hour. You’re most vulnerable when you fail to take the time to nurture yourself, so do something for you. Celebrate self-love this Valentine’s Day. Celebrate yourself. You’re worth it, darling.
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Written by By Sarah Stevenson, Team Beachbody Newsletters.