Do feel like your not valued as a caregiver and frustrated or unappreciated. Many times you may struggle with the emotions of feeling resentful. Some days can be tough when you are caring for another person. Some days you feel like throwing in the towel and saying ‘ I’m so done
We all have hard days like these being a caregiver. But remember this too shall pass, just take one day at a time.
Your Feelings Matter
Many times you have to deal with the feelings of caregiving changing your life in ways you never possibly imagined.
It seems everything changes in a blink of a heartbeat. If you and your family don’t have funds to hire a private caregiver, you might feel stuck in a caregiving situation that seems that you have to put your life on hold.
When a family member needs additional assistance, you come to there rescue. No questions asked. They cared for you, so yes I can do this. I can be a caregiver. Their hearts are full of love and compassion they rarely think this could go on for years.
This is a question I get many times a week.
“I’m Feeling resentful as a family caregiver and I feel awful about it. Can you help me?”
Here are some steps to combat Feeling resentful as a Caregiver
1. Take a break.
Do you have other family or friends that can give you a much-needed break? Another option if you have the funds, why not try respite care. Many
senior living facilities offer short-term care for an elder for a day, weekend or week.
What do they provide?
A place comfortable place to stay, meals, socialization, and activities are all made available to the elder.
Check to see what’s available in your area. Also, check local adult daycare and assisted living facilities this may be another option.
If you can’t afford respite care and caring for a family member with Alzheimer’s or Dementia you can try applying for a grant.
If neither those options work try
church or religious groups, volunteer organizations or family and friends.
Sometimes you need a break to get a hold of your emotion and be in the right mindset. Find your happy place, and do what makes you feel the most relaxed.
2. Take care of yourself.
Nurture your self first. As a caregiver we are so selfless in caring for others, we neglect ourselves. Ask yourself what good will I be if I don’t take care of myself.
What are some of the ways you take care of yourself? Please share your thoughts with me
3. Find caregiver support
You can find support locally or in online chat forums like facebook groups where you can ask questions, make friends and help out other caregivers.
Here are a few to check out:
Caregiver-Forum at Aging Care – ask a question and get a response in 10 minutes or less.
Join A Fit Caregivers Facebook Page
Do you need help or just time to get away for a few hours? If you live in around the southern Illinois area, I am a volunteer for elder care. Feel free to contact me.
I hope to start my non-for profit organization, where I can help make other caregivers lives a little more manageable. By matching caregivers to our elders.
Do you have a question or want to share your day? Please reach out I love helping other caregivers.
Who said caregiving is easy?